Kevin said, "I think it's just a guy thing you're not entirely getting, Candy. Aden said stuff to swim against the tide and some guys respond with exaggerated attacks. He insulted Shakespeare and claimed Milton was better, for god's sake. How could I let that pass, I ask you? Back and forth is what guys do. Doesn't mean we couldn't all sit down to a brewski together. Look at President Barry the Cambridge Cop and the Harvard Professor. Classic. It's just practice."
I do get that it's a guy thing. I've read Iron John. I understand when David Mamet says "Women have, in men's minds, such a low place on the social ladder ... that it's useless to define yourself in terms of a woman. What men need is men's approval."
I appreciate you saying it's a guy thing Kevin, and I understand that male bonding and male mutual approval is incredibly important to a lot of people. I respect male bonding and female bonding and various activities that often need dialogue in order to prevent misunderstandings between ocial constructs. But...I reject the idea that we need to maintain some kind of gendered space or gender sanctioned or segregated behaviours here at this web site bookclub for Cormac McCarthy. I appreciate that since it's a "guy thing" you accept that you and Aden, or Aden and Rick, or Aden and some other guy are "back and forth is what guys do". Well, in my world women do it too. I don't have any particular aim to worry about being one of the guys or not. I send it back and forth with the best of them, regardless of whether I am one of the guys or not. And I've drank plenty of beer with the same people I've sent it back and forth with.
Which is my original point. Why are you suggesting I ignore Aden's posts if I don't like what he says? You have confirmed that it's because you believe it's a guy thing to go back and forth...therefore I should just ignore Aden and not go "back and forth" with him because it's a "guy thing".
You say I should ignore a post I don't like or such because it's "just the internet". I get that, I realize for a lot of people the internet is different than other social arenas. I am sure it is, for some people... but for me it's not quite lke that...you defend your position by saying you could have a brewski with these "guys" here at the forum after going "back and forth". Well so could I. I have in fact. I've made friends and lost friends at this "internet". I've drank brewski's with internet relationships. Gee...just like a guy. I've had brewski's with guys I've had knock down discussions with here at this very forum and other "internet" sites. I agree that it's unwise to take bookclub discussions too seriously...or to take a difference of opinion as a reason to not enjoy a beer with a fellow human. I do get that. More than get it, I live it Kevin. Being on the internet isn't an excuse for me not to take human contact seriously or with pleasure or with dissonance. Being on the internet isn't an anonymous behaviour for many of us.
I'm all for the guy thing...but I reject your idea that in this bookclub and internet web site I should ignore posts I don't agree with but the guys don't have to. Because you say "back and forth thats what guys do". I appreciate you being honest with your feelings about gendered space. I appreciate you being honest with your feelings about guys going back and forth versus the behaviour of a woman also going back and forth. I suggest that you re-evaluate your opinion about womens behaviour here at the forum.
And besides, how would I know if you were a male or female and in fact, "a guy"? And that your belief that guys go "back and forth" is not rendered more authoritarian to me either way. I reject your definitions and standards of telling me I should ignore Aden's posts, or anyone's posts if instead...I'd rather go "back and forth". Going back and forth has nothing to do with gender.
You say "some guys respond with exaggerated attacks." And why should that exclude me responding "stern"? According to you ...because "it's just a guy thing you're not entirely getting, Candy.". If you have a problem with my gender going "back and forth" I suggest you either mind your own business about how I talk to others here at the forum...or you take up your gender issues regarding who and how I talk to and who I don't with the forum suzerians.