This is a post directed to a victim of my stalker...
...and I don't know if this post is going to help us resolve our differences...I posted it yesterday and still I haven't heard from a fellow participant at my online bookclub...who was used by someone stalking me in order to get to me.
When I noticed I had an anonymous person harassing me at my online bookclub... I was afraid...why and who could this person be? Then when I started to suspect that a fellow participant was e-mailing and seemed chummy with this stalker...I confronted them...and we have had a falling out ever since. We had had a challenging ten years of discussions at this book club long before this stalker starting to harass me online...and I suspect this stalker knew how to manipulate people and take advantage of their adversarial position with me.
I've re-written this post because it feels futile...especially since I may not be able to resolve the issue with this victim of my stalker.
My stalker is a sadistic sociopath...and even writing about them is upsetting...and hardly a conducive way to start patching things up with someone also victimized by them. somehow acknowledging the manipulative talents of this stalker begins to free their power over others though...and it has been advised that one should talk about their stalker to be able to heal from the experience and in order to remove their power.
I hope that some how this fellow victim of my stalker will come here...because I am very sorry that I was angry with them...and realize now...perhaps too late...
...that there was almost no way they could have understood how manipulative and deceptive this persons motives were...I know it's taken me a year to finally figure out why they were harassing me online.
Now that I know my stalkers motives and their methods...I am no longer afraid of them...but unfortunately they did a lot of damage between some book club participants...and maybe it is too late to repair the damage?
I hope not.